Becoming real : defeating the stories we tell ourselves that hold us back

by Saltz, Gail.

Format: Print Book 2004
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The Today show's psychiatrist shows readers how to stop living half a life, break old patterns, and take control

You have a story. The one you're not even aware you're telling yourself, the one you made up as a child to explain the behavior of your parents, the lack of control over your circumstances, the one that's keeping you from becoming more confident, the story that's keeping you from the five qualities of becoming real:
Authenticity Personal Freedom True Strength Self-Acceptance Intimacy

Through revealing and intensive questionnaires, Dr. Gail Saltz helps you to finally identify self-defeating behaviors, improve your self-esteem, and escape your personal traps—the same difficult relationships, the same work problems, the same issues with family and friends—so that you can live with more freedom and control once and for all. Identify the symptoms, and you'll be able to discover—and rewrite—the story of your life.

Published Reviews
Publisher's Weekly Review: "Saltz, an assistant professor of psychiatry at New York Presbyterian Hospital appears who weekly on the Today show, provides a guide to a kind of narrative unconscious as it affects decision making. The author says that most people live according to stories about care and need that were created in childhood to help them stay attached to and feel safe with adults who often failed to give what was needed emotionally. Saltz finds five major groups of stories about oneself and others, and names them by their distinguishing traits: dependent, super achiever, self-defeater, competitor, perfectionist. Such descriptors, she finds, lodge in the unconscious and result in self-destructive or nonproductive behavior in relationships and at work, as each type (or a combination of several) is used as a shield to fend off emotional stress. To move beyond these early stories to a more satisfying life, Saltz recommends that one clearly articulate the "old story" and its cost to one now, and then "rewrite" it and act accordingly. Although the author's instructions for undergoing this process are specific and clear, this is not a quick fix self-help book, but is based on psychoanalytic technique that will take time and commitment. Agent, Marly Rusoff at Marly Russof & Associates. (May 10) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved"
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Additional Information
Subjects Self-actualization (Psychology)
Self-defeating behavior.
Schemas (Psychology)
Publisher New York :Riverhead Books,2004
Language English
Notes Includes index.
Description 247 pages ; 24 cm
ISBN 1573222798
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