It hit me like a ton of bricks : a memoir of a mother and daughter

by Burns, Catherine Lloyd.

Format: Print Book 2006
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CLP - Main Library Second Floor - Non-fiction PN2287.B86 A3 2006
Location  CLP - Main Library
Collection  Second Floor - Non-fiction
Call Number  PN2287.B86 A3 2006
Life is a series of losses. I've decided to be very Zen about it. I have lost two husbands, my parents, my brother, countless friends; it is just one loss after another. You might as well get used to it." So muses the author's mother in this poignant and humorous memoir about mothers and daughters.   Loss is a way of life for both Catherine and her mother. But where it made the daughter ravenous for contact, it made the mother lose her appetite for people. While the two always had a fierce attachment, by turns intimate and tumultuous, decades of fractious and contentious and frustrating interactions found a reprieve after the birth of Catherine's daughter, Olive. Witty and direct, weaving back and forth in time, the book charts the transformation of this volatile and unique mother-daughter relationship from longing to connection.   A book about love, mortality, and the nature of family bonds, It Hit Me Like a Ton of Bricks is a must-read for anyone trying to navigate their way through the distance between their fantasies of love and the realities of family relationships.
Published Reviews
Booklist Review: "Burns recounts with gut-twisting authenticity the love-hate relationship she had with her mother. First widowed at 28 with two children and a mortgage, and so broke she had to take in boarders, Mom was fortysomething when she lost her second husband, a show-biz exec; their child, Catherine, was 10. What followed is rather the stuff of Mommie Dearest as the smart, driven, resourceful woman sans college degree became a college professor and head of an academic department, and little Cathy was shunted between twentysomething pothead half sibs and a nanny. Surrounded by drugs and alcohol early on, Cathy developed a serious cocaine habit, repeatedly tried rehab, and eventually traded coke for bulimia. The tone of the writing brightens for her recovery, progress toward a successful acting career that, with its attendant money and celebrity, finally got her mother's approval. The child of Cathy's second marriage proved the hinge on which relations with her mother changed into a powerful bond. --Whitney Scott Copyright 2006 Booklist"
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Publisher's Weekly Review: "Actress Burns, who has appeared on E.R. and Law and Order, has written a funny, touching mother and daughter memoir. Born in 1961 and nine when her father died, Burns felt she got no sympathy from her mother, who worried that her daughter would use people's pity to become manipulative. Besides, her mother said, "where is it written you have to be happy." As a teen, Burns suspected her mother was trying to get rid of her-shipping her off to live with older step-siblings, sending her to boarding school-so she could have fun with her male friends. Surviving drugs, sex and suicidal behavior, Burns went to college, started an acting career, married, had a child, divorced and discovered her mother again. The full circle of the maternal bond is what makes this memoir satisfying; readers see the daughter who schemed to get the attention of the mother whom she believed was self-centered become a mother herself and confront her own daughter's control ploys. When Burns tells her mom what readers have long suspected-that her mother is her best friend-her mother decides she herself is "finished being crazy" and they're both, finally, able to relax together. (May) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved"
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Additional Information
Subjects Burns, Catherine Lloyd.
Actors -- United States -- Biography.
Mothers and daughters -- New York (State) -- New York -- Biography.
Publisher New York :North Point Press,2006
Edition 1st ed.
Language English
Description 228 pages ; 22 cm
ISBN 0865477086 (hardcover : alk. paper)
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