No one tells you this : a memoir

by MacNicol, Glynnis, 1974-

Format: Print Book 2018
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"I found myself underlining sentences, and then entire passages, that resonated with me, articulating the extreme inadequacy and sense of dislocation single women of a certain age, like MacNicol--and like me --experience in moments when others are growing closer without anthem to choosing the single, family-free life."--Amanda Stern, The New York Times Book Review

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If the story doesn't end with marriage or a child, what then?

This question plagued Glynnis MacNicol on the eve of her 40th birthday. Despite a successful career as a writer, and an exciting life in New York City, Glynnis was constantly reminded she had neither of the things the world expected of a woman her age: a partner or a baby. She knew she was supposed to feel bad about this. After all, single women and those without children are often seen as objects of pity, relegated to the sidelines, or indulgent spoiled creatures who think only of themselves.

Glynnis refused to be cast into either of those roles and yet the question remained: What now? There was no good blueprint for how to be a woman alone in the world. She concluded it was time to create one.

Over the course of her fortieth year, which this memoir chronicles, Glynnis embarks on a revealing journey of self-discovery that continually contradicts everything she'd been led to expect. Through the trials of family illness and turmoil, and the thrills of far-flung travel and adventures with men, young and old (and sometimes wearing cowboy hats), she is forced to wrestle with her biggest hopes and fears about love, death, sex, friendship, and loneliness. In doing so, she discovers that holding the power to determine her own fate requires a resilience and courage that no one talks about, and is more rewarding than anyone imagines.

Intimate and timely, No One Tells You This is a fearless reckoning with modern womanhood and an exhilarating adventure that will resonate with anyone determined to live by their own rules.
Published Reviews
Booklist Review: "As MacNicol's engaging and honest memoir opens, she is on the cusp of celebrating her fortieth birthday, and she is conflicted. A writer in New York, she is mostly happy, but, single and childless in a society that has told her marriage and children are of utmost importance for women, she feels incomplete. Even though she isn't sure that she wants either of these things, and even though she has deep and meaningful friendships, she has difficulty moving beyond a feeling of failure. Over the course of the next year, she becomes the go-to person for both her sister, unexpectedly alone with three small children, and her mother, beset by Parkinson's. These challenges help MacNicol see that her life hasn't just happened to her: she has chosen it, and she enjoys it. No typical fortysomething (how many of us would move to Wyoming at the drop of a hat?), MacNicol is relatable, and the joy she finds in her life, lived on her own terms, is striking.--Sexton, Kathy Copyright 2010 Booklist"
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Publisher's Weekly Review: "Macnicol, co-founder of, a networking platform for working women, incisively examines what she wants in her personal life versus what society tells her she's supposed to want: namely, a partner and kids. In her late 30s, Macnicol was a successful freelance writer for several magazines, but got so burned out by the 18-hour days that she eventually quit. It took two years for her to find her footing again, and she eventually returned to writing and founded her website. She reflects on the path of her stay-at-home mother as well as her own independent, jet-setting life ("I had known early on that I did not want my mother's life. If anything, I actively unwanted it"). She also looks to her friends who have paired off (some are happy; others confess they should have been less afraid to be single) as well as her sister, who discovered she was pregnant just as she had separated from her husband. Society, Macnicol writes, views single, childless women with pity, yet Macnicol takes pleasure in being a woman in charge of her own life. The self-affirming wisdom Macnicol gained about herself will resonate with countless women and men who wrestle with the same societal pressures. (July) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved."

Additional Information
Subjects MacNicol, Glynnis, -- 1974-
Single women -- New York (State) -- New York -- Biography.
Canadian Americans -- New York (State) -- New York -- Biography.
Man-woman relationships -- New York (State) -- New York.
Caregivers -- Family relationships -- Ontario -- Toronto.
Middle-aged women -- Family relationships.
Mother and child.
Self-realization in women.
Women authors, American -- 21st century -- Biography.
Women authors, American -- 21st century -- Family relationships.
Publisher New York, NY :Simon & Schuster,2018
Edition First Simon & Schuster hardcover edition.
Language English
Description 293 pages ; 23 cm
ISBN 9781501163135
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